You wake up with a solid plan to eat right and workout. You ate a light breakfast and have your lunch bag packed with chicken salad and a banana for a snack in case you get hungry. You sit down at your desk sipping your coffee, no sugar or creamer, and you’re ready to tackle your day.
Mid morning someone from the office comes by and invites you to some cupcakes and cookies in the break room. You’re confused cause there was no memo about anyone’s birthday or anything like that. You wonder why there would be cupcakes and cookies on a regular old Tuesday.
Instead of analyzing the situation and what is really going on, more often than not we go ahead and oblige. We have the cupcake that was never a part of our plan for the day so we can make the baker feel good. After the sugar high wears off we are left with a feeling of guilt and regret.
Is the person who brings the cupcakes being nice and generous or are they really being selfish? Let’s look at this a little deeper. They probably baked the treats because they enjoy baking. They may have had a bad day and baking is the thing that makes them feel better. They may even like to see the look on people’s face when they bite into those delicious sugary treat. They certainly think their intentions are good, but did they really give much thought to what they were doing?
By bringing those cupcakes (or whatever treat) to work they are inserting themselves into the lives of the people they offer them to. They are intruding on that person’s day and their plan for that day by introducing temptation that is hard to deny. They don’t consider whether people in the office are on a diet or looking to cut back on sweets or even if they have diabetes. They are thinking of how they want to feel better about themselves; not about the guilt that you feel when you give in and have that treat that wasn’t a part of your planned meals for the day.
I know for sure that these people who bake and bring the goodies to work are good people. My mom does it all of the time and she is one of the nicest people I know. What I do not know is if they have stopped to think about what their goodies might do to bring turmoil to the thoughts of their coworkers and to their waistlines.
So many times we are caught off guard by surprises and let other people’s agendas dictate how we live our lives. We start our day with a clear plan and honest intentions to make progress towards our goals, then someone else forces their agenda on us and we acquiesce to it. We need to be stronger than that and here are some options you can use when faced with the dilemma to eat the cupcakes or go to that impromptu lunch.
Say no thank you and move on. I’m sure everyone who is eating them would like for you to share in their fun and the more people who do it the less guilty they feel, but there is no wrong in simply saying no thank you and politely moving on.
Take it with you to your desk and discretely throw it away. This way you get to give the baker or treat bringer the satisfaction of seeing someone take the results of their hard work and thinking they will eat and enjoy it.
Politely tell them that you can’t eat it because it doesn’t fit into your meal plan and give them a recipe for a healthier option the next time they want to bake.
Eat the treat and enjoy the company. I mean really enjoy it all, don’t allow yourself to feel any guilt just live in the moment and enjoy. Then make up for it later.
Next time someone brings cupcakes give it a little thought. Eat it with joy and no regrets or find a way to politely deny it. No matter what don’t act on impulse.
Some people workout their entire lives and never get that body of their dreams. Does that mean they wasted their time? No.
Busting your butt in the gym is about more than just losing weight or fitting into smaller clothes. Deep down we all want the body of our dreams, but lets not let that be the only reason we workout. Working out is about building a lifestyle and a mindstate. A winning mindstate based on a solid foundation of hard work and accomplishment. It’s not just about the accomplishment of getting the body you want, that’s a great bonus to the hard work, it’s about living the life you should. A hard working and dedicated life. A life where you do what most people won’t. What most people are “too busy” for.
When I set out to accomplish something I don’t think too much about what I have to do to accomplish it, I think about WHO I need to BE. Instead of focusing on doing certain things, I work on making myself into the person who deserves the body or the job or the house I want. If I didn’t already have my dream girl I would be working to make myself into the person who deserves to get her. Now I work to continue to be the one who deserves her.
Part of being the best person I can comes from the dedication and discipline that I have learned and used since I started my workout journey about 10 years ago. At times I have lost weight and I have gained muscle. There have also been times where I stayed at the same fitness level for a good while. I never stopped the process of going to the gym and I never will. Putting myself through the workouts when I wanted to make an excuse has paid off for me over and over again without even consideration of my appearance. Being dedicated to the workout lifestyle is about strengthening your mind and your will, not just your body.
In school they told you to do extra curricular activities to show your work ethic when the time came to apply for college or your first job. In a very competitive job market what will you do to set yourself apart when you work to keep your job or get a new one? Of course you aren’t going to talk about how much you can squat at your next job interview, but you’ll know it as you answer other questions. Working hard toward reaching fitness goals builds your confidence, your ability to form and keep good habits, and strengthens your will power to succeed. All of this can be applied to attaining real world success, not just gym success.
Dedicating yourself to a workout program and working hard will mold you into the person who deserves all of the success that comes your way. Even if you never get the body of your dreams you’ll get a respectably fit body. You can also get the life of your dreams by sticking to the process and the mind state of working out.
If someone worked out every day of their life and died of cancer at 55 years old some people might say all of that hard work was a waste. But what might have happened if that person hadn’t been so dedicated to their fitness program? Would they even have lived that long? Would their life have been as full and successful? When that person was hit with the news how would that have dealt with accepting it and fighting if they hadn't fought thousands of battles against barriers in the gym?
The next time you start to second guess the reason you work so hard in the gym start to think beyond the gym and how the hard work and winning mentality translates to real world success. Be the person who takes action and fights the good fight, not the person who makes excuses. Hard work in the gym translates success in all aspects of life.